“Was it love? Or was it the idea of being in love?”
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This is a famous quote of Pink Floyd.
All of us have dreams. All of us have an idea of how we want our life to be. We imagine and romanticize various situations in our life well before in advance. Because no matter how much we talk of living in the present all of us do think about future and plan it.
Some are concrete and practical plans but for the situations which are not in our hands, we, subconsciously, tend to make a rough idea of how that situation will unfold in our life.
For instance, we do imagine about our future love.
Whom we’ll meet or who will fall for us is not in anyone’s control. But as a young person, we do shape our own love stories in our mind.
Peer influence has a major role to play in this. When we see most of your friends or peer group hanging around with their girlfriends/boyfriends, we do tend to feel that someday I’ll be at their place and then it’s going to be like this.
Knowingly or unknowingly we do make an imagination of this need of ours. Then there may come a time when we feel that everyone has it and not me…intentionally or unintentionally we wait for that moment…that phase to come in our life.
And in case of love, during this waiting period whosoever comes across and shows interest, one feels yes it has come now. The search is over.
(The unpronounced feelings here are: Even I am in the league. I am not apart from the group)
And then in the relationship, the person tends to live the idea that he already had in his mind about his love life and not the real relationship.
We are in a hurry to live the phases that apparently everyone else is going through. We do not want to be left apart from not feeling what everyone else is feeling.
This stage usually happens when one is at the peak of his/her youth. The maturity of analyzing the real feelings or just the idea of experiencing those feelings comes with age and experience.
This viewpoint is to make one ponder about what happened and what is happening…It is not about making anyone skeptic about his/her relationship (if one is already into).
This is just to stop him/her for a moment…think and look inwards and ask…
Whether it is love or is it just the idea of being in love?
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Hey, I also quite agree that we think or feel or plan different ideas about love or being loved. But I think this is the process of life time. As in, in our initial years we plan about the influential love amongst our group or circle or to say the least fantasize about it…Then as we grow up we search love in our partner. After few years we expect love from our kids…We may call it respect but what we actually seek is LOVE…which has disguised itself behind it…
basically Love is something which we seek for our entire life …sometimes feeling it was actually LOVE and sometimes just loving the idea of it….
For the longest time I thought and understood Love to be more of a feeling than other things it could be, only to realise that it was choice a essentially- sometimes accompanied by feelings and sometimes not.
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Every thing about this piece of writing is so true that one can not resist himself from thinking about his own dreams. Dreams that are about satisfaction, love and devotion.
The beauty of affection and romance that one builds while being in idea of love is best characterized by ur wriring. It’s mesmarizing.
Nice one gal!!i agree it too!!
Keep rocking n keep posting!!
I really agree wid dis article……..
really true
der or here v all r part of dis!!!!!!
yeah dear.. we r always dreaming of such a person who come from our own “pariyo ki kahani.”.. bt in reality…everything is different.. feelingd r d one that plays an imp role in dis whole matter… keep writing dear..
the matter you projected here is a part of reality and we all experience it in our life.but i think it is a kind of attraction not love because it is short term and ended after a passage of time.one of the reason behind it is the need of someone whose company we enjoyed.we wait for the person,wish to spend some time with that and think about her/his.within a small period of time he/she get our attention and dominate our minds.we feel anxious when he/she is far away and when his/her presence takes us in wonderland.but after certain time we think over the situation logically and the portion of feelings reduces then we realise oh its not love its attracion or hunger to be with somebody beacause we imagine that everyone has someone only i left.it may be a love if it is not short term and contineously continued.human is social animal we have feelings and emotions which we can’t stop but manage it.
Hey all.. thank you so much for your feedback. I really appreciate it and it’s so encouraging.
@Webmaster: Thankyou for uploading the song ‘One slip’ (the song from where I took the lines ‘Was it love? Or was it the idea of being in love?’)and also for the perfect picture and your response.
Hey Khushboo,
You’re a good writer and that’s what people want. Thanks for contributing. Look forward to many more.
Sidd.
P.S. Outside the world of the electron, I am Sidd.
Thanks Sidd
: ) You’re welcome !